We would like to say Mahalo to everyone who participated in 5:1 Kindness Challenge and spread positiveness in the communities around you.

Thank you also to Keahi Tucker – Hawaii News Now, Kristy Tamashiro – KHON, and Amrita Mallik – UH Manoa for spreading the words about our challenge.

Special thanks goes to Ms. Pamera Fujita of Mililani Middle School for having her entire class participate in the challenge to spread kindness widely!!

Here are some of her students’ feedbacks:

“… We started the quarter by doing the 5:3:1 as our project. We do 5 minutes of meditation. we then have a journal where we decorate each day and write down 3 good things about the day. Along with that we write 1 random act of kindness we did that day. Ms.pam heard about your contest and had a challenge between each track….. Our goal overall was to spread kindness. I believe our class achieved our goal to spread kindness to others who need it….”   Jazmine O.

“Ms. Pam’s Class dedicated a whole quarter to teaching about kindness and 5-3-1. She told us to write in our journals 3 things that made us happy that day, and one act of kindness that we did that day. This assignment helped us to improve on many things, mostly on becoming a happier and all around better person.”   Piha’eu A.

Let’s keep it going this holiday season. A small kindness goes a long way in making a positive impact on someone’s day  

It is also the law: HRS [§5-7.5]  “Aloha Spirit”

(a)  “Aloha Spirit” is the coordination of mind and heart within each person.  It brings each person to the self.  Each person must think and emote good feelings to others.  In the contemplation and presence of the life force, “Aloha”, the following unuhi laula loa may be used:

     “Akahai”, meaning kindness to be expressed with tenderness;

     “Lokahi”, meaning unity, to be expressed with harmony;

     “Oluolu”, meaning agreeable, to be expressed with pleasantness;

     “Haahaa”, meaning humility, to be expressed with modesty;

     “Ahonui”, meaning patience, to be expressed with perseverance.

     These are traits of character that express the charm, warmth and sincerity of Hawaii’s people.  It was the working philosophy of native Hawaiians and was presented as a gift to the people of Hawaii.  “Aloha” is more than a word of greeting or farewell or a salutation.  “Aloha” means mutual regard and affection and extends warmth in caring with no obligation in return.  “Aloha” is the essence of relationships in which each person is important to every other person for collective existence.  “Aloha” means to hear what is not said, to see what cannot be seen and to know the unknowable.

     (b)  In exercising their power on behalf of the people and in fulfillment of their responsibilities, obligations and service to the people, the legislature, governor, lieutenant governor, executive officers of each department, the chief justice, associate justices, and judges of the appellate, circuit, and district courts may contemplate and reside with the life force and give consideration to the “Aloha Spirit”. [L 1986, c 202, §1]

Join us in the Kindness Challenge and choose to live Aloha!

BE Kind Pledge Form 2019

“5 Reasons Why Kindness Has Become the Key to My Happiness, Both in Business and in Life” by Denise Corcoran – Originally posted on April 19, 2019 at https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/326114 .

According to a Cigna study, 46 percent of surveyed Americans suffer from feeling alone. In the work world, despite all the focus on employee engagement, many employees are still unhappy. We live at a time when we are more connected than ever digitally, yet loneliness and unhappiness abound. Where are we missing the boat?

After working with leadership teams and organizations for over four decades, I believe I have found the answer. The answer is not about greater employee engagement — rather, it’s about greater human engagement.  

How I uncovered the happiness secret for myself

In the darkest moments of my life, a wise mentor told me that the greatest antidote to fear, anxiety or frustration was to go help someone else. After a rough 2018 on a personal level, I found this sage advice to be a game-changer. Here’s how it all began.  Click here to read on…

Be kind. Take Kindness Challenge with us.

“A Formula for Healthy Relationships”

by Anne Marie Smoke

– Originally posted on November 1, 2018 in State of Hawai’i Judiciary blog

The thing that separates healthy and happy relationships from miserable ones is a balance of positive to negative interactions. Studies in the field of social psychology show that it takes five positive interactions to make up for every one bad encounter you have with someone. 

It is called the 5:1 Magic Ratio. Think of it as a simple formula for building healthy relationships. 

There are other positive outcomes of balancing good and bad human encounters that affect our work environment. Studies in human performance continue to reflect decades-old theories on the value of positive reinforcement in the workplace. This wisdom suggests that positive reinforcement—which by all conventional measures is a good encounter—can make an organization more effective and bring out the best in everybody. 

Here is how it works. We experience approximately 20,000 individual moments in a waking day each lasting just a few seconds. The moments that make an indelible mark on our memory are not the neutral encounters we have with others, but the ones that are either positive or negative. Even though these encounters are only seconds long, they can be life-changing. 

If you can change someone’s life in just a few seconds, why not make it for the better and get the added payoff of cultivating a happy, more productive workplace. It all starts by establishing a culture of positive exchanges. 

Pay someone a compliment. Offer a few encouraging words. Show appreciation. Help a coworker save face. Or, simply greet your coworkers with a smile! 

The good news is that you can bank good actions or encounters. After all, we are human, and we all have momentary lapses in judgement, or mindless, rushed moments when we are unaware of what we are leaving in our wake. So, while you are consciously making someone’s day with a kind gesture, you are banking positive encounters to balance the scale when your lesser self takes over. 

While we wind down the year and plan for 2019, consider making the 5:1 ratio a personal daily or weekly goal, or engage your co-workers and make it a team effort. Fill your relationship bank with good interactions and see for yourself what transforms. You just might make your office a better place to work! 

Take the 5:1 Kindness Challenge with us in October 
to see how it really works.

Click here to get started!

Sources:

• Gottman, J. (2008). A Fine Balance: The Magic Ration to a Healthy Relationship Purdue Extension. CFS-744-W, Purdue University 
• Daniels, Aubrey C. (2016). Bringing Out the Best in People: How to Apply the Astonishing Power of Positive Reinforcement, Third Edition, McGraw Hill, 2016 
• Kahneman, D., & Riis, J. (2005). Living, and Thinking about It: Two Perspectives on Life. The Science of Well-Being, 285-304. http://dx.doi.org/10.1093/acprof:oso /9780198567523.003.0011. Downloaded 1, November 2018 

What separates healthy and happy relationships from miserable ones is a balance of positive to negative interactions. Studies in the field of social psychology  show that it takes five positive interactions to make up for every one bad encounter you have with someone.

It is called the 5:1 Magic Ratio. Think of it as a simple formula for building healthy relationships (at home or at work).

Click here to find out how this challenge works.