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Among All The COVID Negatives, Positive Wisdom Can Emerge by Thomas DiGrazia

Sharing an article published in Civil Beat by one of Conflict Resolution Alliance members, Tom DiGrazia…   We are now into September and the COVID-19 virus has claimed the lives of around 190,000 U.S. citizens and has currently infected over 6 million of our people with no end in sight. COVID has sharpened our focus on how collectively unhealthy we Americans are. The rampant incidence in America of obesity, diabetes, cardiovascular disease, dietary abuses and lack of exercise and the accompanying related illnesses among us have been negatively hijacked by COVID-19. This hijacking has been created and worsened by design, ignorance and omissions in our nation’s predominant lifestyle in 21st-century America. This lifestyle of ill health and the adverse preexisting health conditions it manifests have made us extremely susceptible to this contagion. Our present federal government has also stripped away our democratic veneer. Our politics — particularly on the national level — have become extremely factionalized. For instance the politically metaphoric concept of Red and Blue states, parties, groups and individuals are more often now the perspective lenses through which many Americans observe the world. This fragmented perspective — us versus them, the “others” — includes traditional and obvious issues such as race, religion, immigration, and mass proliferation of guns. Yet this cultural divide now embraces fear-based COVID-related concerns. These concerns currently include wearing masks, social responsibility for others, and whether children go to school or workers return to work. This us versus them tribalism is reflected in our social media. Every human act, foible, error, statement or tendency — real, imagined or perceived — has become subject to instant social media support or scorn and mockery. The Cyber Jury Increasingly, the cyber jury of our peers either expresses fanatic agreement or disagreement with the views emerging over the Internet…

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Difficult Conversation Series Virtual Workshop!

Join us for the Difficult Conversation Series that is a series of six virtual interactive workshops that will help you be ready to have difficult conversations in our professional and personal lives. More information in attachment and at https://difficultconversation.eventbrite.com.

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Your CRA has been busy planning virtual events for you!

The year 2020 has been truely unique. The challenges we have faced revealed our personal and community strengths and weaknesses, made us re-evaluate many aspects of our lives, and enabled us to make numerous pivots and adjustments in reaction. As we continue to ride the waves of new realities, your Conflict Resolution Alliance (CRA) has been busy planning virtual events to help you excel in resolving conflicts and building peace in our new norm!To kick off the fall events, the “Talk Story” event is scheduled on August 26, 2020 for you to share & learn Best Practices & Regulatory Considerations of Remote ADR Platforms, followed by a series of seven “Difficult Conversation” workshops to help you navigate those conversations well. Hope you can all join us! All events are virtual and you don’t have to leave your office or home to attend. (And as long as you have a shirt on, you meet the event dress code, too 🙂 )  Check out all CRA events along with other conflict resolution/peace building events information posted at our event page. If you know of any events that will help develop peacebuilders in Hawaii you would like us to share on our event page, please reach out at our contact page.

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The Myth Of Winning

Sharing an article by one of our members: By Gerald S. Clay and Fletcher Knebel “Winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing” –         Vince Lombardi No American quotation so misrepresents the essence of modern life as that ascribed to the late Vincent Lombardi, coach of the Green Bay Packers, who purportedly tossed off the famous line about winning. The sole purpose of the game, the remark implied, was not the playing of it, but the winning of it. However pertinent the comment might be for professional sports—and even there it fails to reflect reality by a wide margin—as a metaphor for life, Lombardi’s enshrinement of victory is junk psychology. For every minute of our lives bent toward winning, we spend hours and days adjusting, accommodating and compromising. Most of society’s rituals, customs, and advisories on behavior serve to avoid rather than incite the struggles that result in winners and losers. Games and sports, as prevalent and popular as they are, belong to a world apart. Games take place in a highly artificial, structured environment. They have rigid rules designed to yield winners and losers in every contest. But life beyond games features elastic rules, limitless ambiguity, and wide areas where winning becomes irrelevant and the pursuit of victory seems ludicrous at best and perilous at worst. Short of war, modern life holds only restricted fields in which winning over losers is the goal. Games, both physical and mental, yes. Gambling, yes. Beauty, endurance, and muscle-bulging contests, yes. Running for political office should not belong to the same category as these—and yet, it is constantly framed as such. Elections as they currently exist are defined by the idea of winners and losers: we obsessively track candidates’ standing in polls and their ‘electability’ more than we interrogate their values and histories. The…

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We would LOVE to help you!

We would love to share your thoughts and help you network with peacebuilders in Hawaii at CRAHawaii.org website! If you are hosting an event relating to peacebuilding/conflict resolution, we would love to help you promote it. Please submit your event information at https://www.crahawaii.org/contact/. Conflict Resolution Alliance (CRA) members: If you have any articles you would like us to post or share at CRAHawaii.org, or presentation or workshop ideas to support peacebuilding/conflict resolution community in Hawaii, please submit it at https://www.crahawaii.org/contact/. Please contact us at info@crahawaii.org  if you have any questions.

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How Do We Help Our Community Recover Quickly?

Community re-opening plans and policies are changing so frequently and rapidly to react and adapt to the new daily discoveries in uncharted territories. As we get ready to welcome back visitors to the islands from various different communities, much needed “hope” is starting to roll in along with new sets of uncertainties and fears to our community. According to Accipio, unpredictability, stress, conflicting access to resources, perceptions and personal values are some of the causes of conflict. We have seen so many conflicts in our society already, and we can expect to see many more along our road to recovery. They need to be adressed quickly so that our community is able to pivot and adapt to the new norm quickly and thrive together. This is a prime time for us, the conflict resolution professionals and advocates, to play a critical role in supporting the community. We have tools to meet wherever the conflicts are and knowledge and ability to offer options in how disputes are resolved and how parties can participate, to create an optimum environment to make people feel safe and foster resolution. In order to do this well, we need to be sure that we are well. Matsunaga Institute for Peace’s webinar recording of the “De-Stressing:laughing Your Way Through These Unprecedented Times” by Lu and Tom Digrazia is available at https://youtu.be/fDSTEV2pLt8. Hope you are all well because our community needs us more than ever.

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MEDIATING ONLINE: A PRIMER

Aloha, Here is a related 2-Day Free Training for qualified 40 participants… The William S. Richardson School of Law’s Conflict Management Institute (CMI) is pleased to offer an exciting opportunity to participate in a free online dispute resolution (ODR) training conducted by nationally recognized experts Jim Melamed, Colin Rule and Clare Fowler. This opportunity is limited to the first 40 registrants who meet the criteria of being an experienced mediator. If you are unable to attend, the video of the training will be posted on the William S. Richardson School of Law’s website. If you are an experienced mediator and are interested in participating in the two-day training on June 18th and June 19th, please click on the link below. MEDIATING ONLINE: A PRIMER https://www.mediate.com/products/pg1367.cfm This training is sponsored by the William S. Richardson School of Law’s Conflict Management Institute (CMI). CMI helps legal, business, and community leaders maximize the use of collaborative conflict management strategies.

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ONLINE DISPUTE RESOLUTION (ODR): WHERE’S IT AT, AND WHERE’S IT GOING?

Aloha Conflict Resolution Alliance Community, Sharing information about upcoming event on ODR on June 18… The William S. Richardson School of Law’s Conflict Management Institute is hosting the second presentation in its 2020 Conflict Management Speakers Series. This second timely presentation will focus on online dispute resolution (ODR). Nationally recognized ODR experts, Jim Melamed and Colin Rule, will present on current ODR trends and the future of ODR. We hope you will join us to learn more about ODR and how we can incorporate best practices into Hawaii’s business community. To register for the event, please click on the link below. ONLINE DISPUTE RESOLUTION (ODR): WHERE’S IT AT, AND WHERE’S IT GOING? https://www.mediate.com/products/pg1365.cfm The William S. Richardson School of Law’s Conflict Management Institute (CMI) helps legal, business, and community leaders maximize the use of collaborative conflict management strategies. The 2020 Conflict Management Speaker’s Series is the first in CMI’s offerings of short programs, CLEs, and continuing education courses for attorneys, business professionals, executives, and community leaders.

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The Unprecedented Time Stressing You Out?

Aloha Conflict Resolution Alliance Community! We could all use some help in finding peace in the new norm we are living in now to help us continue our important work in helping others resolve conflicts peacefully. We wanted to share information about the free online training opportunity presented by: The Hawai‘i State Judiciary Center for Alternative Dispute Resolution & Matsunaga Institute for Peace   “De-stressing: Laughing Your Way Through These Unprecedented Times” with Tom DiGrazia Friday, June 5, 2020 11 AM -12:15 PM HST Register here, https://bit.ly/3cUnTTP (Details for logging into the Zoom meeting will be provided the week of the event)   About Event: Mediation Meets Meditation:  Learn Yoga exercises that can be done from the comfort of your remote workplace in order to de-stress. No prior experience necessary.   About Tom DiGrazia: Tom  has been a lawyer and professional peacemaker/mediator for 50 years and has studied, practiced and taught Yoga since 1975. As a registered 500-hr.-E-RYT with the Yoga Alliance, he teaches private classes at the YSK Yoga studio in Kailua, Hawai‘i.   Co-Sponsors: Conflict Resolution Alliance (CRA), Hawai‘i State Bar Association Alternative Dispute Resolution Section (HSBA-ADR), The Mediation Center of the Pacific (MCP)

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Rapid Response Mediation Program – Correction

Update on the Rapid Response Mediation Program Please note that currently only The Mediation Center of the Pacific on O‘ahu, Ku‘ikahi Mediation Center on Hawai‘i Island and West Hawaii Mediation Center on Hawai‘i Island are offering the Rapid Response Landlord Tenant Mediation Program. Please contact those three centers directly to learn more about their respective programs. We apologize for any confusion.